Why All Women Need a Sisterhood

Why All Women Need a Sisterhood

When I was a little girl, my mom would have Fish Fridays and Tupperware parties, and it was so much fun to witness women gathering and laughing and bonding over food. That was their version of sisterhood.

I miss that.

 

Today it’s a different story.

Women today are so busy. I was just talking with a friend yesterday who admitted she was so busy, that she didn’t know if she could commit to 5 minutes of meditation per day.

When did life get so fast-paced and noisy, that we don’t hear that inner cry…we lost touch of our soul’s desire to just BE?

I think we have become distant to what our souls crave. Women crave deeper connections, both with ourselves and with our sister friends. We all have a need to connect to our soul. We all have a need for sisterhood and meaningful connections with other women. It’s our nature – we are hard-wired for connection. But we deny ourselves the right to be open and vulnerable with other women.  We distract ourselves by justifying the need to constantly be BUSY.

And it’s shows up in our lives.

Without slowing down for ourselves, without those sister-to-sister connections, we find ourselves going through the motions of life, disconnected from our true emotions. We silence our innermost desires, discount our feelings. We may have disconnect from ourselves and our sisters for so long that we don’t even recognize our true feelings…unnecessary feelings of shame, guilt, or hurt, feelings about people we allow in our lives, our careers, our relationships. Even feelings about our daily decisions for self-care, self-love, self-approval. We don’t discuss our feelings.

Another thing we women do: we put our needs last.

Why do women make everyone and everything else a priority?

Where did we learn that? When will we CHANGE that? It must start now.

We pat ourselves on the back for our grand accomplishments in career, our accumulation of the trappings of success: big house, fancy car, designer this and that. All that stuff is a big stroke for our ego. Yeah, it feels good to shop and buy nice things.  I LOVE the luxury of that good life. I can rattle of a few stores I would love to shop with wild abandon: Williams Sonoma, Nordstorm, Bergdoff Goodman, Sur La Table…

But on a higher conscious level, what does all that stuff do for our soulAbsolutely nothing.

Sure, I’ll take the nice things life can bring, but I won’t make the mistake of believing that will satisfy the depths of my soul. I won’t deny myself the trappings of success, because I believe we all deserve and have a right to abundance, whatever that looks like.

But at 42 years young , I want to be clear with my intentions to myself and The Universe that those things cannot come at the expense of my daily connection with my soul.

As I continue my spiritual journey, I look back on my life and take account. I think more and more about my core values, my core desired feelings, and I think about what matters most to me.

What Matters Most To YOU?

I imagine, at the end of my life in physical form,  I would want to have beautiful memories of me spending lots of fun times with other like-minded women, memories of me enjoying close connections, support, love, and sacred space with other soul-centered women. I know my late grandmother and mom certainly had plenty of great memories, as I grew up with a constant flow of women in our household.

Left to Right: My Aunt Trudell, My late grandmother Alvessie Mimms, My Aunt Joan, and my late mother Sandra Beth Mimms.

All Women Need a Sisterhood

Our grandmothers and great-grandmothers had tribes, our mothers had their version.  And for our generation, let’s face it, more and more of us spend time each week on social media. All women need a sisterhood. So that’s why I created the Modern Goddess Tribe group.

Modern Goddess Tribe

This Modern Goddess Tribe is a private community for women who wish to actively join a sisterhood, a modern-day tribe, of self-empowered, soul-centered women making positive change of health, wealth, and happiness for themselves and the world.  It’s is virtual for now, but I plan to soon create Modern Goddess Tribe retreats, both in the United States and eventually internationally. The retreats will be a fun time where women in this group can meet up, and show up for themselves, for each other. Retreats where we can dance, eat healthy, express ourselves, relax, and tap into our inner Modern Goddess!

We all need each other. I encourage you to make time to really connect with your fellow sisters. Let’s all stand in our truth, honor our need for deep soul-connection, and not shy away from satisfying our innate need for SISTERHOOD.  And I invite you to join the Modern Goddess Tribe!

Why I left the church

Why I left the church

I was just having a deep conversation the other day with another Holistic Health Coach and Reiki Energy Practitioner, and we were sharing our stories of why we left the church to instead choose a spiritual path. I was so moved by our stories, and how we radically changed our lives, that I decided to share my story with you. This is DEEP and very personal, so I thank you in advance for taking out time to read this.

{deep breath in, long exhale, and…here goes…}

Religion vs Spirituality
Why I left the church


In  my mid-20s, I was still on the heels of a very violent and messy divorce. I felt like every institution that was supposed to protect and serve me…FAILED me. This included an abusive ex-husband, a corrupt & toxic church, unsupportive family, apathetic friends, judgemental psychologists/therapists, and uncompassionate doctors. 

I felt completely and utterly ALONE.

I mourned the loss of my innocence through incest, date rape, and physical, emotional, and mental abuse at the hands of several men who I trusted. I was even molested by a doctor during a breast exam in college.

WHY did these things happen to me? Why was I alive? My emotions were low vibration, I had no self-confidence, and my spirit was broken. At one point I considered suicide, as I felt life was not worth living.

Another BIG question I had was, WHY did the Church fail me? Where was GOD when I needed HIM? 

I had grown up in the church, had served as Youth Leader, Bible School Teacher, I served in the church Drill Team, Choir, Christmas and Easter plays, volunteered for countless events. It was a part of my life. But where did all my dedication to church membership get me?

At my core, I didn’t believe life was about suffering and discounting emotions, and that my prize would be when I got to heaven. I wanted to have a great life NOW, in THIS lifetime.

I continued to seek help and answers by digging even more into my faith. Prayers, Sunday School, Bible School, Church Revivals, the works.

It was only when the pastor of the church I attended tried to sexually assault me…and my mother told me once again to “turn the other cheek” that I finally said ENOUGH. I made a very difficult decision to leave the church, and I never looked back.

Again, I was alone…but not lonely. The difference was because I had discovered the laws of metaphysics, the laws of attraction, meditation, and how to tap into my intuition.

Reiki Energy Healing

I learned how to protect myself, my energy, and how to avoid toxic people, toxic environments, and toxic situations. I learned how to navigate my way back to happiness and overall health and wellness by connecting my body, mind, and spirit.  I studied books, listened to audiotapes. I fully immersed myself into emotional healing and spirituality.

And the biggest surprise…I felt CLOSER to God more than ever before, certainly much more than I ever did when I was a loyal church member. 

Yoga at summit

I purged my social life. I purged my diet of low vibration foods. I released negative thinking, and embraced living a high vibration life. This new way of life brought me so much joy, even helped me stay grounded during times when life rocked me to my core.

I couldn’t label what it was back in my 20s, this new path I forged for myself. All I knew was that in order to continue living and actually WANT to be alive on this earth, it had to be worth it to me.

I actually made a wager with GOD. I remember that day clearly, I was driving along 290 Hwy in the rain, and screaming, crying, wailing, knowing no other way to express the hurricane of volatile, painful emotions welling up in my chest, my soul cried out to GOD, WHY AM I HERE?!? God, if you want me to stay on this earth, you have got to give me a reason. You have got to make this work. I want to feel GOOD in life, otherwise, why stay here and continue to suffer?

God ANSWERED!!!

Now, I can’t tell you I heard a clear voice speak back to me. That would have been WAYYYY cool. But NOPE. 

But I did feel this sudden shift in my body, from an eternal heartache and yearning in my gut, to a goosebumpy warm & fuzzy feeling in my whole body. I felt the hairs raise on the back of my neck, and a sense of peace washed over me. I felt COMFORTED in my soul…and I knew my prayer had been answered. And I’ve been respecting my inner introvert, protecting my energy, honoring my boundaries, and listening to my intuitive nudges (our intuition is our God-given internal GPS) ever since.

A thought surfaced, “Hang in there. Trust me, the good stuff is coming. Your life WILL Get better” I know this was God speaking to me, letting me know everything would be okay. And in that moment, I decided NOT to drive my car of Highway 290 to plunge to my death. I decided to LIVE. I decided to not just live, but to do WHATEVER IT TOOK to live abundantly, fabulously, authentically – a life that I LOVED.

Today, I know that back then, on that fateful day, I chose SPIRITUALITY over ORGANIZED RELIGION, and that decision has served me well. 

Let me be clear, I’m not saying all organized religion is bad. Nor am I saying everyone should leave organized religion. If it’s working well for you, great! Continue doing what is aligned with your beliefs – that is, afterall, the definition of happiness.  I am absolutely positive I made the best decision for me, and I mutually respect others’ choices regardless of their religion/spiritual path of choice.  We all are on this path of enlightenment and higher consciousness together.

But if you’re going to church every Sunday, praying and paying tithes, fellowshipping, diligent about Bible Study and the like, but you still feel disconnected from happiness, can’t seem to turn things around, feel like you’re constantly in survival mode, running emotionally, mentally on fumes, and just feel EMPTY, then perhaps looking at learning new tools to fully connect with God could be the answer to those questions in your head.

I’m not suggesting you leave church, your experiences are unique to you. I’m suggesting there are many paths to God. I’m saying maybe it’s time to consider another way of approaching your faith, another way to achieve oneness with God, and get clear direction.

So Where Do I Start?

If you want to start your spiritual journey with me in 2015, I have a few options you can choose from:

MEDITATION

My 28 Day Spiritual Cleanse program starts January 11th, and this is a great way to start your spiritual journey. It focuses on connecting to God through meditation. It’s not a religious program, but it can definitely be incorporated into any religion, because while many churches focus on prayer, which is speaking to God, there’s not a lot of education on meditation, which creates silent sacred space for God to speak back to you.

You could be praying for the same thing over and over, and never hear God’s answer if you don’t meditate!

Follow your core desired feelings in my

DESIRE MAP WORKSHOPS

I also encourage you to take a look at my new venture in helping empower women with spiritual tools to live a better life – my new Desire Map workshops page. 

My first workshop begins January 30th, and I would love to have you join in! Register soon, as seats are limited in this exclusive event!

PRIVATE COACHING

Work With Me
If you feel like private one-on-one coaching is better for you, then I still offer private coaching.  I’ll be opening up more coaching slots, so if you don’t see a time slot that works for you, reply to this email and let me know, and we can work something out.

Share Your Thoughts!

I’d love to hear from you – and yes, I read EVERY SINGLE RESPONSE to my blogs! 🙂

I want to know:

  • What’s your plan to make 2015 your best year ever?
  • How do you approach spirituality vs religion for your life?

Big Love,

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Venus Aviv, CHHC, AADP
Life Transformation Coach & Reiki Energy Healer