Why I had surgery

Why I had surgery

Reflection

Today is the second Sunday of the last month in 2013.

Whew! As I reflect on this past year, I realize how thankful I am for so much personal growth and transformation I’ve experienced.  I’m so excited about returning to my holistic practice, and having the opportunity to help many women through my upcoming holistic health programs scheduled for 2014.

I am excited because each one of my programs are very personal to me. I’ve been through my own personal health journey that has been going on for over two years now.  About a couple of years ago, I suddenly began having a mysterious lower abdominal pain – serious pain that was so bad, I could barely sit down. I couldn’t drive or sit for long periods of time I did lots of research, and shifted to an anti-inflammation and mostly raw diet, and began weekly acupuncture treatments. Within 3 weeks, the pain went away, and I felt relieved. But then, the pain came back with a vengeance.  Again, I tried a combination of holistic remedies over about a two-year period of time. I even went to a doctor and had a host of diagnostic exams done, including blood/urine/fecal exams, a physical exam, a vaginal exam and sonogram, CT scan, MRI, X-ray, and even a colonoscopy,  and the doctors came back with all normal tests, and wanted to perform “exploratory surgery.”  I immediately said no, and decided to continue searching for holistic remedies.

And I did. I tried a combination of the following:  prayer and meditation, Reiki, hypnosis meditations, tapping, essential oils, herbs, teas, yoga, breath work, emotional work, acupuncture, acupressure, massage, infrared sauna detox, raw food detoxes, juice fasts, emotional detoxes, and I also worked with several holistic health coaches.  Needless to say, the pain always returned.  I finally decided in September that I had had ENOUGH. I decided to embrace Western Medicine and anything it had to offer to help me resolve this once and for all.  I was even willing to try exploratory surgery.

So I underwent a whole new battery of tests, all over again, this time with a new doctor who I intuitively believed wouldn’t feel threatened by my desire to first try holistic approaches, and then resort to Western Medicine as a last ditch effort.  Again, all tests came back normal. So my doctor determined that scar tissue from my C-section nineteen years ago was the source of the pain, and we both agreed that exploratory surgery would be the logical next step.

Well, I had the surgery on Friday, November 22, 2013, and I’ll have my first follow-up with my doctor on Monday morning. But I’m happy to say my recovery has gone well, despite a false alarm of some pain that turned out to be pockets of gas (yes, I’m blushing) and a trip to the ER for an allergic reaction to the superglue placed over my incisions, I think the surgery was a success!  I will continue my holistic remedies to strengthen my body and heal from the physical trauma of my surgery (In my opinion, there is no such thing as “minor” surgery – it’s all trauma to the body).  But I am deeply grateful that Western Medicine was there when I needed it, and that I found a doctor that I could trust, one who trusted my ability to make sound decisions for myself, for my health.

My Life Lesson

So my life lesson is to listen to your body, and know when it’s time to do something different.  And that it’s perfectly okay to have a blended approach to managing your health.  What about you? Have you ever tried holistic remedies, but ended up choosing Western Medicine to resolve an ongoing health issue?

Also, what did you think of my last blog entry of how I got into the Holiday Spirit? bit.ly/myholidayspirit.

Happy Holidays!

Venus Aviv, CHHC, AADP
Healthy Lifestyle Goddess

How I Got into the Holiday Spirit

How I Got into the Holiday Spirit

Me and Mom - 2005

It’s Saturday afternoon, and I’m sitting here at my desk reflecting on why I feel so much more happier this holiday season than in the past couple of years.

See, in February 2009, I lost my mother to breast cancer.  It was devastating enough to watch her take her last breath.  I realize now, looking back, that for many months following, I hadn’t given myself permission to go through the natural stages of grief, because I was still very much in shock. The official term is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), but for me, it was mostly a period of huge memory gaps, brain fog, and emotional detachment. I can recall having entire conversations with other fellow students at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition (IIN) in New York City, where I eventually graduated as a certified Holistic Health Coach. I would talk with a fellow student after a lecture, and then a few hours later, I would totally forget having met that person. I remember once I paid an $800+ electric bill, only to forget that I had already paid it, and paid it again…in the same week. I’m so grateful that my husband understood what I was going through, and showed a helluva lotta patience and love with me during this time!

In the aftermath, holidays were difficult, bittersweet, and a blue cloud hung over me, as I resigned to “get through the holidays” and decided to just put on a smile. In doing so, that smile I wore became my mask. The mask served me well, and soon after, I began to put on the mask everyday, using it as a way to hide from the world.

But the truth is, I really didn’t enjoy the holidays, because I wasn’t fully present. I masked my pain, my sorrows, my grieving, and in doing so, delayed my healing process.

It wasn’t until last year that I finally came to reckon with this, and truly allowed myself to “hit rock bottom.”  I allowed myself to break down, slowly, bit by bit, to shed and release all the hurt, pain, heartbreak, sorrow, anger, and bitterness around losing my biggest fan, my best friend, my sweet angel, my mother.  In 2012, I allowed myself to sit in solitude and finally hear my thoughts, something I had been avoiding since my birthday, September 25, 2008, when I got the call at work that the cancer was not only back for a third time, but that it had also spread to over 90% of her body.  She was gone in 6 months.   In 2012, I went through yoga teacher training, twice, with the primary focus of allowing my grieving to finally happen. I meditated, I learned about asanas (yoga body movement and positions), and pranas (breathing exercises), chakras (energy channels), and female power from a body energy perspective.  While I didn’t graduate  and become certified in yoga due to physical limitations (more on this in a future post), I achieved what I desired: assistance with grieving and healing for myself, so I could finally release my mom’s passing, and move forward in life without a heavy heart. During this time, I also took a year or so off from my holistic practice, so I could give 100% focus on my own personal development.

And taking that time to do my emotional work paid off.  When I woke up January 1, 2013, I felt like a brand new woman, the blue cloud had been lifted and I felt lighter, STRONGER, more than ever before.  So, this holiday season has me feeling much, much happier, healthier, and WHOLE again, and I feel I have come full circle again.  I found myself watching old Christmas movies I used to watch with my mom as a little girl, and I noticed instead of feeling pain, I experienced full head on JOY that is just unexplainable.  In fact, it was watching Elf that inspired this post. Here’s other ways I get into the holiday spirit:

  1. Release all guilt and “I should” for shopping and gift giving. If it happens, great. If not, run a quick check of your priorities from now and January 2, 2014: what really matters?
  2. Create some space and time for YOU. For me, that means EVERY DAY I take at least an hour to do something that really relaxes me: a hot candle lit bath, baking gluten-free, sugar-free, dairy-free cookies, calling a friend, watching old Christmas movies with organic sea salted popcorn, or snuggling with my husband by the fire.
  3. Set reminders during work hours to BREATH and take a stretch break. I learned in yoga teacher training that managing our breath is a large part of stress management and self control. I tend to stop breathing when I get stressed over something as little as my computer moving slow. So I set reminders for myself to BREATH, even take a quick 3-2 minute short stress-busting walk every hour, to hit the Stress RESET button and relax.
  4. Allow myself some fun food, within reason, as long as I stay within the 80/20 rule: eat 80% healthy, and have fun (within reason – my body cannot tolerate gluten, beef, or pork animal protein) with the 20%.  This ratio shifts back to 90% healthy and 10% fun after New Year’s.
  5. Be flexible – people will do what people do, and I can’t control them. But I can control me, and my reactions. In fact, I can also choose to NOT react, but rather, to observe other’s behavior and ask with curiosity and compassion, what is the underlying reason? I also ask, “How can I look at this from a different perspective?
  6. Gratitude:  I approach the Holiday season, or any other for that matter, with gratitude, because this is the most powerful way to activate abundance and manifest your desires. The Universe (God) begins to return to you whatever you direct your energy towards. So, for example, if you direct your energy towards complaining about traffic, you will only receive more frustration with being stuck in traffic. If you, on the other hand, approach traffic with an attitude of gratitude, like, “I am grateful to have a vehicle, to have normal function in my brain, my hands, my legs, to be able to drive,” or “I’m grateful that my vehicle is working properly and that I am safe” would invite more of the same, and most likely you would not feel frustration, but feel much more positive in spirit.

I hope that you find some benefit in my story, as well as my tips to get in to the holiday spirit, so that you may release what might be blocking you from feeling the holiday spirit as well. I don’t know your story, but I would love to hear from you. How do you get into the holiday spirit?

In Other News

I am glad to say that I happy to have returned to coaching, having relaunched my business on my 41st birthday this year, and I have very exciting programs coming up for 2014!

I’m also ecstatic about finally launching my brand new website: www.venusavivwellness.com!  I still have the old website at www.venusaviv.com, and will keep this website up until I have all existing content transferred to this site.  Please be patient, as you may see changes on the fly during the remainder of December 2013 until the transition is complete.

Till next time, Happy Holidays to You and Yours!

Venus Aviv

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